The rumors are true! Madonna and Guy Ritchie have admitted that their marriage has become undone. Can you imagine the stress this family has endured? Their supposedly "troubled" marriage has been tabloid fodder for months. Madonna's association with A-Rod has made them the long-hunted targets of the paparazzi. The combination of Madonna's extreme wealth combined with the absence of a pre-nuptial agreement has everyone speculating what this divorce will cost. The pending custody battle over their son Rocco will be sure to guarantee an ugly ending to their marriage.

You don't have to be Madonna or Guy Ritchie to understand the ugliness of divorce. All divorces are difficult for everyone involved. No one is exempt from the emotional roller coaster that follows a breakup. Even the most secure person can experience moments of self doubt immediately following a split. The mantra of all newly separated or divorced people should be "feelings aren't facts." This is not the time to make any unnecessary changes.

Ironically, it is not unusual to have an urge to completely change your look following a breakup. It is an outward sign declaring the acceptance of your new life. It is most important that a change of haircut, hair color, or makeup makes you look more beautiful. I always find it suspect when a client with a beautiful haircut or color suddenly asks for a dramatic change. Change for the sake of change is almost always a mistake. This is a major "red flag" that requires an in-depth conversation before the first splash of the tint brush or snip of the scissors. Sometimes post-divorce is the perfect time for a change. If you have been growing your hair forever and almost always wore it back because you didn't know what do with it, you most likely do need a new look. If your hair has been the exact same color for the past five years, it is time for at least a small change. Talk to your stylist and colorist. They should be able to advise you whether change is a good idea. If you think they are stumbling for an answer or "yessing" you, go to another salon for a consultation. Sometimes it is necessary to have someone look at you with a fresh eye to determine the change that's right for you.