You are in a committed, monogamist, long term relationship. You have been totally faithful except for those one or two blow outs while away on holiday. You never bothered to mention your infidelities to anyone, never mind him. It felt odd, but of course it would, you haven't been with anyone else in years. It happened only a few times. It wasn't really cheating, was it?

As crazy as it seems, leaving your hairdresser for an occasional blow dry or a new hair color can make the strongest woman weak. The thought of having to say "It's over" to the person that has always been there for you can be nerve wrecking. You might be thinking that you would rather eat glass than having to tell your hairdresser you are leaving. Just disappearing sounds easier for everyone, right? This way no one's feelings are hurt. This sounds good at first, but what happens when you run in to your hairdresser in a restaurant or on the street? I mean, really, how awkward is that moment? Well, let me tell you, it is awkward, for both people!

Yes, clients have left me over the years. I know what this moment feels like. I have lived it. I can't begin to explain what it feels like to say hello to your ex-client, tell them how great it is to see them, while your eyes uncontrollably move directly to their hair, and their eyes to the ground. This dreaded moment can be avoided, and it's really not that hard to do.

When you find yourself looking in the mirror and realize that you have not been happy with your hair for a long time you should talk to your hairdresser. Try to explain what bothers you and ask for his opinion. Ask him what he would do differently if he never saw you before. If you are still not happy with the results, it is time to move on.

The easiest way to leave gracefully is with a note. The note should show your appreciation of the services rendered over the years and express your need for change. If you have not been with your hairdresser for a least a year you don't have to worry about a note. Seeing the same hairdresser under a year is like dating without a commitment to be exclusive. Feel free to move on. Sometimes the relationship with your hairdresser has become more personal. The two of you have become friends. This is a more sensitive situation. In this case, I think hearing the news that you are moving on is best coming directly from you.

I know the thought of this conversation makes you sick, but you will be so happy once you have it. You will never have to pretend you did not notice each other on the street. You have been straight up with your hairdresser and friend. You took the high road. It's not your problem anymore.

What happens if the new hairdresser you want to try is in the same salon? This is not a big deal. You don't have to have a nervous breakdown! Make the appointment with the hairdresser of your choice. Don't allow yourself to look "busted" for trying someone new. When you walk in the salon, be sure to give a big "Hello" to your old hairdresser. There is nothing creepier than trying to sneak in and out of the salon without being noticed. I promise you that you will be noticed.

Most hairdressers, at least the smart ones, are happy that you remained a client of the salon. This means that one day you can possibly transition back to their chair. Remember, you are the hot commodity that everyone in the salon wants. You have the power. Don't hand it over by acting like you betrayed anyone. You haven't. You can move on with a clear conscience.

It's been a long time since you have been with someone new. You forgot how exciting it can be! Be sure to tell him what you like. Don't be nervous! Enjoy!